Step-in technique: How to increase your self-confidence in 2 minutes

NLP Self-confidence Anchoring

If there is any faith, 

who can move mountains,

it is the faith in our own power.


- Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach -





In only 2 short minutes you can increase your self-confidence? And that can be true? Yes, it can. I understand your doubts of course, but this technique is actually helpful and is used by many successful people. Especially when it comes to important upcoming situations, it will drastically minimize your fears and worries and strengthen your positive view and feelings. You can even create motivation for something, like a workout. Let's take a closer look at it!





What is the Step-In-Technique?


The Step-In-Technique is a NLP-technique, which, as the name already reveals, makes it possible to step into a positive and self-confident EGO. Thereby you adopt the desired characteristics of this EGO. It combines 2 different NLP techniques, as the ANCHORING. Anchoring is simple to explain. You put a physical stimulus (e.g. pinching yourself in the hand), which is connected with a certain positive experience. If you pinch yourself again at this spot, this anchored feeling can be recalled at any time. However, anchoring is not a MUST for the Step-In-Technique. But you achieve the best possible result when you perform them together. More details will follow in the next sections. But first a short explanation: What is NLP anyway?


NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. This is a method developed in the 70s to actively influence our consciousness and fill it with positive input. Various techniques are used nowadays and NLP has changed more and more over time. It is very often used in addition to psychotherapy, but also in completely different areas such as sales or giving a speech. It is proven and I myself can only advise everyone to do so: the more we fill our consciousness with positive thinking, the happier, more productive and more positive we are. Reading into this subject is not only interesting, but has a lot of advantages.


Ok, but now back to our Step-In-Technique.





How can this technique help?


Let' suppose you feel insecure about an impending event. This could be anything like:


  • a speech
  • an exam
  • a date
  • an important conversation
  • an interview
  • and so on


This is exactly when you need to encourage yourself and add other positive qualities to strengthen your self-confidence and self-esteem. And this can be achieved with this method. You have to practice this technique a few times, but it works effectively. If you add an anchor to the technique, you can immediately call up this self-esteem. The important thing is that you have practiced this a few times.


But imagine this. You are about to attend to an important meeting and you have to present a PowerPoint presentation. You're nervous and afraid to misspeak. That is completely normal. Nervousness usually diminishes during such presentations if you prepare yourself very well and go through your slides or documents so often that you could quote them in your sleep. But some people are still nervous, even if they are well prepared.


And what about a date or an interview? You hardly know your counterpart or not at all. You don't know how the person reacts to you and so you put pressure on yourself.


Wouldn't it be nice to be able to take the pressure off, because you react completely cool / self-confident and thoughtful? On the one hand, you don't have to worry about coming across as too pretentious. It's not necessarily a Fake-it-till-you-make-it-concept. Instead, you deal with your own self and just want to improve it. You don't lie to yourself and others, you just give yourself a little push. This little push, nevertheless, can be decisive for the success of the upcoming event.


On the other hand, as always, you shouldn't think that this technique will solve all problems. It is a trump card that should be used at every possible opportunity. But if you are not working on your self-esteem in general, this technique alone will only help in the short term. But it will help. One way or another! So let's take a look at how exactly it works.





How does it look in practice?


The good news first. This technique is easy to learn. Now the bad news... there is none. You just have to use it and as with all things, a routine is beneficial. So why don't you start practicing the Step-In-Technique every day. All in all you can decide how long this practice takes, but 2-3 minutes is usually enough.





  • Step 1: Find a quiet place where you are undisturbed for at least 2 minutes.

  • Step 2: Close your eyes and calmly breathe in and out.

  • Step 3: Imagine yourself! In your mind's eye you can see yourself, but beware! This is not only you as you look and feel right now, but YOU as you would like to be, with a few extra attributes. So don't imagine anybody else, but yourself with the characteristics you would like to have. Pay close attention to things like:

    • A perfectly fitting hairstyle
    • The physique (slim, muscular, athletic)
    • The posture (straight, proud, etc.)
    • The clothing
    • Character traits and qualities such as: self-confident, intelligent, eloquent, etc.

Carve it to perfection and pay close attention to every detail. The more explicitly you elaborate and observe this perfect version of yourself, the more effective the technique is. This EGO is a perfect vision of yourself. You don't need heroes, you create one out of YOU! Concentrate completely on this EGO!

  • Step 4: Now imagine how this superior EGO masters the upcoming event.

    An example: If it should be a speech, then imagine how this EGO stands in front of a huge audience and smiles. Self-confident and happy about the many people, this EGO will give your upcoming speech. Notice how calm and relaxed this version of yourself moves across the stage and speaks into the crowd with calm words and a loud voice. Pay attention to the body language, the voice, the eye contact. 

  • Step 5: The last step is the reason why this method is called Step-In. Because in the end you absorb this EGO with all its characteristics. This means that after you have created and observed your perfect EGO carefully, you absorb it within yourself. Imagine how this version of YOU stands in front of you and you go into it and all its abilities (ALL!!!) are transferred to you. Feel this warm and euphoric feeling, that you are now being given all the strength and positive characteristics of this EGO.

  • Now YOU and this EGO are one!






To reinforce the whole technique, you can (but don't need to) add anchoring. As mentioned above, you need to create a physical stimulus that you maintain throughout the duration of this technique. The point is that if you repeat this stimulus independently of the Step-In-Technique, you can recall this positive feeling at any time.


For example: As you perform the Step-In-Technique and imagine your desired EGO, pinch your thumbnail in the middle finger of the same hand. Not too tightly that a bruise develops, but also not too soft so that it isn't an extensive stimulus. Hold this "pain" during the whole time, you are visualizing your EGO


If you are now faced with a situation and want to call up the qualities of your perfect EGO again, then you concentrate on this EGO only for a moment and pinch your middle finger with your thumb again and the feelings come back. It is only important that you do the anchoring more often and the stimulus is always in the same spot. From 1-2 times, it will not be possible to set a strong anchor. So plan to anchor every day for 1-2 weeks, while you imagine your self-confident EGO and absorb it in the end.





Still skeptical?



None of this is hocus-pocus, if that's what you're thinking. The real effect of this technique is only obtained by imagining something in your mind's eye. This imagination is perceived by your subconscious, and the more often you practice it, the more your subconscious will learn it.


Most of our actions and behaviors are controlled subconsciously and therefore it's all the more advisable to feed this subconscious with an image of yourself that is free of fear and bursting with self-confidence. If you think that this EGO is not really YOU, then you are wrong. It is, just without your fears and social constraints. Of course, you won't become a master speaker or seducer through the Step-In, a lot of practice is necessary, but it will increase your performance considerably. The more you imagine that you can do something, the better you will be at it.


Even if you are very good at something and you additionally perform the Step-In-Technique, you will get even better results. Especially top athletes and people who have to call up performances on command often use the power of this method. They imagine how perfectly they run the lap or swim the lane, excite the audience or convince their customers. They go over it again and again, so that it becomes an automatism and the EGO becomes them.









If you need motivation, self-confidence, a cool head or superiority, then you can always evoke these with the Step-In-Technique and Anchoring. It is not the solution for everything. So work on yourself and free yourself from your fears. With this technique you will literally make it better within the push of a button.


Whenever you ask yourself: How am I going to do it? Then imagine your perfect EGO and see how it masters this test effortlessly and proudly. You also have this potential within you, you just have to awaken it!






I hope the article was helpful for you. If so, please share it, so others like you can benefit from it. I wish you the best.







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