„The secret of success
is constancy to purpose“
- Benjamin Disraeli -
There are many reasons why you haven't reached your goals yet. Maybe you were too lazy or maybe you don't have a real goal. Nevertheless you are dissatisfied with your situation and want more in life. This is understandable and therefore I will show you how you can guaranteed reach your goals or even better your ONE big goal.
The problem is that nowadays we are exposed to far too many influences. You want a new smartphone, a job where you earn more, invest some money, write your own book, start a business on the side and preferably train 4 times a week.
You surely know this situation and you know that it is not so easy to achieve. Even if you were super disciplined, never sick and working non-stop, you probably couldn't do everything at once.
And at this point I have to say: That's perfectly fine!
Don't have any illusions. Even the most successful people don't do everything at once.
On the other hand, this does not mean that you cannot achieve great results. In fact, you can achieve everything. Well, maybe not everything, you should be realistic. I will show you in this article how you can achieve the one thing, your one goal. This works by keeping in mind that if you have many goals, you will not really achieve any of them. That's why we're going to focus on just one.
Successful people make a plan and so should you. If you just fill your head with all your to-do's, it will paralyze and hinder you rather than advance your progress. You can't do everything at once, so ask yourself:
What is my ONE big goal?
This question is very important. Ask it and think about it honestly and thoroughly. You must be able to devote yourself to one thing at a time. This does not mean that you can't start another thing until the first one is finished, but that your priority is on the one big thing. We just have a limited capacity of willpower.
The power of our will
If you constantly have to motivate yourself and make an effort to get things done, you will be mentally and perhaps physically exhausted at the end of the day. It has been scientifically proven that we only have a measurable amount of willpower, which of course can be increased by constant training. When your will power is used up, it is extremely difficult for you to follow your rules. By rules I mean your habits, such as diet or exercise.
That means that if you have eaten nothing but salad and fruit all day long and have pursued this with relentless discipline, then at the end of the day your reserves will be empty and you will reach for chocolate again, etc. This has nothing to do with being weak-willed. Not at all! Therefore, free yourself from any bad conscience and negative thoughts. You just have to use your mind cleverly.
In the morning after getting up you are usually full of energy, unless you are a total morning grump. For example, if you put in an energetic morning routine right after getting up, you can get a lot done before the day has really started.
Read the article "What an effective morning routine looks like". You can also do sports in the morning. This does not necessarily have to be a gym. It would be enough if you did a customized workout for 20 minutes after getting up at home. Then you can shower afterwards and start your day in the best possible manner. This is just an example, as everyone ticks differently. It doesn't matter when or where you do some exercise. The main thing is that you do it. The same applies to your diet. You can fast in the morning and eat more at lunchtime and in the evening, as long as you don't choose the wrong foods.
But how can you use your will to best effect when you only have a certain amount of it at your disposal?
The answer is: Make it a habit!
Acquiring new habits
You'll spend less of your willpower or active thinking if you keep doing familiar things over and over again. My favorite example is driving a car. In the beginning you were still busy with shifting gears, pedals, steering and everything else outside the car and partly overwhelmed. Now the driving itself is completely automatic.
And so it is with habits. If you want to learn something new, it's all about acquiring a habit. It doesn't matter if it is about eating, sports, learning, reading or starting a small side business. Also hobbies need time and attention, which you have to spend regularly. Doing instead of thinking is important here!
Start small and progress over time
For example: You want to get your body in shape and you sign up at the gym, but you just don't go or only rarely. That's not your fault, because you simply lack the habit to do so. Instead, you have the habit of going straight home after work and you have been cultivating this habit for years. Not the workout is the problem. The beginning and going there is the first thing you must achieve. Because, if you're there you will do some training anyway. So we have to change a habit at this point:
- go home ---> + do a workout
You start from scratch. Because you first have to get used to going there in the first place. Let's say your goal is to go to the gym three times a week. Then do the following:
- Put 3 fixed appointments in your calendar
- Make it clear to others that you don't have time on these dates
- Go whether you want to or not
- Start with small effort: 5 minutes on the treadmill or at least a workload that is possible for you without getting stressed
- After that you can go straight home
- Keep the habit for at least 100 days
You must then increase the effort over time. So 10 minutes on the treadmill and 2 full body exercises at first, then 15 minutes on the treadmill and 3 exercises, etc. You can apply this pattern to any habit you like. If you want to read more, set up a schedule and start by reading only one page a day. Don't miss your appointments and just keep going like this for at least 100 days. Read more about this in the article: "How to change your habits in 100 days."
Once you have gotten used to one activity and are working on it regularly, you can either improve your performance or start another. You have to judge for yourself how important things are to you. If your business is priority number one, then you should spend less time and willpower on other things. It is as simple as that. If you have several important factors, then you have to divide your priority equally. But it works best if you devote most of your energy to the most important and ONE thing.
Avoid distractions and time wasters
That's more than important. You need to be able to focus on one thing at a time, without distractions. If you're going to take care of your business, then this is what counts. Even if you only spend 10 minutes a day on it, you have to work focused in that time.
But distractions must not only be external influences. For example, if you want to create a website and instead of dealing with web design, the software or programming language, you spend hours scrolling through nice wallpapers, this will only bring you sluggishly closer to your goal.
Of course, a turtle also arrives at its destination. Slowly but surely. And that's all right, too. But without such time-eaters you would progress much faster. Rather take small steps, like the turtle, but take the steps in the right direction. You can improve over time and become more and more like a rabbit. Always ask yourself:
Is this activity relevant?
If you cannot answer this question with YES immediately, then start looking for the real tasks. Sometimes you are just too lazy to face the difficult tasks, but if you don't take some effective steps every now and then, it will be very difficult to achieve your goals.
Think to yourself, "If I'm gonna go ahead and actually sit down to do it, why don't I just do it?" That's why you need a plan. Write down what is necessary to achieve your goals. What is relevant and what is not. Sort your ideas!
Concentrate your energy
Focus on just one thing. Distractions are poison to your goals. You don't need a plan B, just a good plan A. This means, as mentioned above, that you must focus your attention on your main goal. So if you want to invest, learn a language, train and and and and... then proceed as follows.
You first have to identify what your ONE thing is. Ask yourself what is of most use, fun or value to you. There is little point in giving your collective attention to a meaningless and unprofitable cause. As soon as you know what you want to do first or what is most important for you, you set yourself a fixed schedule for it.
It should be at least 2 hours a day if possible. This is no joke. The successful author Stephen King has made writing his routine. It's his number one priority. He writes every day, no matter where or if it's a holiday. He makes almost no exceptions. He always aims to write 6 standard pages. He stays in his study until those 6 pages are written.
You don't have to write a novel, but you have to bring in a regularity. Only a habit will help you to achieve your goal. It is also important that you are undisturbed during this time and can focus your willpower and attention 100%. You can often do much more in 30 minutes of highly concentrated work than in 2 hours full of distractions.
Let's say you're building an online shop on the side. You have so many ToDo's. Building a website, logo design, product design, supply chain, accounting, advertising etc. Ask yourself the following, to be able to prioritize this better:
What can I do today to push my one thing the most?
Creating products when there is no website or shop available is of little use to you. Offering articles without knowing a supplier is also pointless. So always ask yourself what you have to do first. What can you do today?
Here is a possible approach:
- Question: What is my one thing?
- Set regular (preferably daily) fixed and undisturbed time slots
- Question: What can I do for it today?
- Pick out the most profitable activity and get it done
- Don't waste time with time-wasters.
- Repeat the activity and improve over time (everyone started small)
The principle of this article is quite simple. Very often in life we have our finish lines and solutions right in front of our nose, but rarely do we implement them correctly in our lives. But after reading the article you will have noticed that you haven't yet reached your goals or a goal because you have not prioritized it enough.
So ask yourself what is the most important thing for you and follow it up regularly. Create a habit and spend a few hours a day just for that. Stay away from time-wasters or distractions and really only do what is important!
I hope the article was helpful for you. If so, why don't you share it so that others can benefit from it, too? I wish YOU the best.
- LdR -
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